Individual and Couples Sessions


Daren De Witt offers individual and couple sessions of Identity Therapy, for people who would prefer to explore their issues privately rather than in a group context.  Due to Covid19, all sessions are currently taking place online.

How Do The Individual Sessions work?

See our page About Identity Therapy for an overview of Identity Therapy theory.

As with the group sessions, in a private session you will first create a Sentence of Intention based on the issue that you want to explore.  It could be something like: ‘I want to be happier in my life’, or ‘I want to feel less anxious’ or ‘I want to care about myself.’  You write the sentence on a board or paper so that it is visible and can be referred to during the session.

In private sessions you choose coloured markers to represent words and phrases from your sentence of intention (whereas in groups sessions you choose people to represent the words).  To contain the dynamics in the session, we have a limit of three markers for each session.  So for example if there are six words in the sentence, you will choose three words from the sentence, or divide the sentence into three parts and choose a marker for each part. You arrange the markers on the floor or on a desk in a configuration that feels right to you.

The configuration itself will reveal to you useful information about what is going on for you in relation to your intention.  For example, the distance between different markers or the direction in which they are facing can indicate something about the relationship between these parts within yourself.

With the support of the facilitator you will start to explore your relationship to the markers by standing on each of them in turn.  You will find that each marker will reveal an aspect of your inner experience in relation to your sentence of intention.  You are invited to pay attention to the feelings, thoughts, sensations, etc, which begin to surface in you, and to share them with the facilitator.

As you proceed, it is also possible and it can be helpful to ask the facilitator to stand on one of the markers for you and share their sense of what lies within that word.  Or they can stand on one marker whilst you stand on another, to facilitate a dialogue between two parts of your inner experience.

As with the group sessions, powerful insights and feelings may arise for you during the session.  For this reason, you are invited to proceed at your own pace and you can pause – or end – the session at any time and sit down and discuss any aspect of what you are experiencing.  With the support of the facilitator you can decide when you have gained the understanding and clarity from the session that you need for now.

Sessions are usually an hour and a half to two hours in length.  This allows you time to do a constellation with a sentence of intention and also discuss this afterwards.  You can attend sessions at a frequency of your own choosing – weekly, fortnightly, monthly or other.

Couples Sessions

Our relationship conflicts often originate in the unconscious psychological dynamics of our childhood.  In a couples session, you will each have an opportunity to create an intention relevant to your relationship and to do a piece of work based on this intention.  During the session your partner will observe your process.

As you see your partner come into contact with his or her past experience you will gain a deeper understanding of what is creating the dynamics in your relationship.  As each one of you comes into better contact with yourselves the chances that you can see each other more clearly grow.  This will support you both to meet each others deeper needs whilst maintaining healthy boundaries.  Sharing this experience with your partner will allow a deepening and enhancing your intimacy.

At the end of the session you will both have an opportunity to share your thoughts and feelings emerging from the experience.

A constellation process for one person typically lasts for between 60 to 90 minutes.  If both partners wish to complete a constellation process during the same session then it is possible to book a longer session of 2 and a half to 3 hours in length.

Locations and Availability

Currently due to Covid19, Daren is only working online.  Previously, Daren was working from a location which is one minute’s walk from Liverpool St station in East Central London.  Daren is available for sessions during weekdays and weekday evenings and occasionally on weekends.